Here's another bonding technique. In general, people are wary when talking to strangers and are reluctant to disclose too personal information. However, as we get to know others well, we will reveal our personal information to them, as if it were an intimate gift to each other. We might tell a friend or romantic partner that we've worked hard to give up nail biting. Or the less unmentionable ones, like our hair being so greasy that we wash it every day. When we tell a good friend something like this, his or her reaction is likely to be to laugh and say, "Oh, you really think that's serious? I had a rash on my hands that almost drove me crazy." "Or" Your hair doesn't have much oil. When I go to the salon, the hairdresser always asks me if I should cut it all off or change the oil!" That's how friendships are cultivated. This kind of self-disclosing conversation can create an intimate bond between friends. By sharing a little secret or making some appropriate confessions, you are showing your partner that you are not defensive. You are exposing your vulnerable side to him or her. But before you try this "self-disclosure" technique, make sure your relationship is on a solid footing. If you feel that he (or she) has not yet developed a respect for you, this technique will be self-defeating. One interesting study revealed that a highly competent person who makes a silly social mistake is more liked; But if an average person makes this mistake in social interactions, people will feel less favorable toward him or her.
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