Similar people use similar language. Family and friends use the same words to communicate with each other, and colleagues at work or clubs speak in the same style. Everyone you meet has their own language and subconsciously uses it as a standard to distinguish themselves from outsiders, including family, friends and colleagues in their intimate circle. You may not notice it, but the man or woman has a unique way of speaking that ties her to her family and friends, her professional circle, and her attitude toward life. To help your crush subconsciously think that you two are the same, repeat their common words in an echo pattern. All you need to do is a little attentive listening. The same words mean different things to different people. Since elementary school, we know that the direct meaning of a word refers to its literal meaning, and the extended meaning refers to its specific meaning in a different context - the feeling that the word makes us feel. In order for the person to feel close to you, you have to use the exact same language as them. Gentlemen, suppose your friend has just introduced you to an attractive divorced lady. In that initial meeting, the words she used to talk about her children might be "kid," "baby," "toddler," "little guy," or "little thing." Maybe everyone in her family uses the same words, so when you talk to her, make sure you use the same words to refer to the child. When you repeat her common words, she will immediately sprout a subconscious closeness - as if you have become a member of her family. Ladies, suppose you're talking to a gentleman at a party. He's talking about his job, career, project, or mission. For example, if he was a lawyer, the word he would use would be "career." If you use the word "errand" to talk to him, he will resent you. But if the handsome guy you're talking to is a construction worker and you refer to his job as "career," he might think you're being sarcastic.
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