How do you create similarities in each other’s consciousness?

Once you have established a solid subconscious similarity with your partner, it’s time to demonstrate your conscious similarity in three key ways. The three similarities discussed below will appear at different stages of your relationship from nascent to mature.

• The first similarity is straightforward, certain, and easy to create: the interests you both share. What are some of your favorite recreational activities or fitness programs? What kind of music do you like to listen to, what kind of movies do you enjoy, what kind of books do you often read?
• The second similarity will be gradually recognized by your partner as the relationship progresses, and that is the basic values, life beliefs, behavior patterns and world views of the two of you. These things are very deep and very important.
• The third similarity is so subtle and elusive that it often takes years to realize it, and it is often too late to realize it. It is the most dangerous, unpredictable and causes the biggest problems in long-term relationships. It lies deep in the relationship, in elaborate disguise, and almost never voluntarily reveals itself. To dig it out, you have to sharpen the spade and keep digging down. It is the inner expectation you both have of what love and marriage should or should not look like.